“A part of maturity is learning to love some people from a distance. To keep their well-being in your prayers, but take a path away from them.”
When I first saw this quote it reminded me of something I used to tell my clients: “Not everyone deserves a seat in the front row of your life. Some people need to be seated a few rows back. Some people belong up in the balcony. Some need to be booted out of the theater altogether.”
Fortunately, we get to decide who gets a seat in the front row and who doesn’t. If someone is treating you badly, disrespecting you, trying to convince you that you’re unlovable, maybe it’s time they move to the balcony.
Clients would often say, “But not family!” To which I’d say, “Especially family.” Just because someone is a relative doesn’t give them license to treat you with less care and consideration. And being a “nice” person does not mean you are required to cheerfully take everyone’s crap. That’s not being “nice,” that’s being a doormat. Being nice and having a spine and some self-respect are not mutually exclusive.
Who in your life needs to move to the balcony?